*BATTLEMIND SKILL: ARMOUR FOR YOUR MIND
ADJUSTING FROM DEPLOYMENT	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
Battlemind is a term used to describe the skills and state of mind that helped you to cope whilst deployed on operations.	The skill and state of mind that helped combat troops cope whilst deployed in conflicts were in reality the use of extreme violence and being psychologically prepared to kill other human beings without any compunction whatsoever.
You will have developed and relied on your Battlemind during your deployment and doing so will have allowed you to respond appropriately to difficult situations.	Your Battlemind skills during conflicts gave you the confidence to deal with all and any situation by responding with extreme violence.
However, unless you adapt your Battlemind you may have problems when you return home.	This is the MoD’s admission of guilt and a way of avoiding accountability by asking you to adapt your Battlemind without any deprogramming of the implanted extreme violence on your return home.
SUCCESSFUL HOMECOMING	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
It is a fact that military personnel adjust to being back from home in their own way and in their own time.	This is an unproven statement because it is untested with combat veterans, and crucially there is no actual time scale for individual subconscious minds to heal from their implanted extreme violence.
The key to a successful homecoming is to adapt your Battlemind skills so that they work for you at home as effectively as they did when you were in theatre.	Adapting Battlemind skills to a successful homecoming is effectively instructing you to use extreme violence when needed – as you did when you were in the theatre.

*BATTLEMIND SKILL: PROFESSIONAL SKILLS HELPED YOU DEAL WITH DEPLOYMENT
MoD’s ASSERTATIONS	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
On Deployment: The Battlemind skills and state of mind that you used to face operations effectively are listed below.	On Deployment: Veterans’ In Prison (VIP) will respond to each of the Ministry of Defence’s (MoD) declared versions of the Battlemind skills listed below – with our proposed accounts.
Buddy Buddy System (Cohesion) Accountability Targeted Aggression Tactical Awareness Limited Alcohol Emotional Control Mission Operational Security (OPSEC) Individual responsibility Non-Defensive (Combat) Driving Discipline and Ordering	Buddy Buddy System (Cohesion) Accountability Targeted Aggression Tactical Awareness Limited Alcohol Emotional Control Mission Operational Security (OPSEC) Individual responsibility Non-Defensive (Combat) Driving Discipline and Ordering
We will look at each of these deployment skills in the pages that follow and provide guidance on how they can be adapted to allow you to operate effectively at home.	VIP will look at each of these deployment skills in the pages that follow and provide genuine guidance on how they should truly be adapted to allow you to operate effectively at home.
It is CRITICAL that you do not let the way you behaved on deployment determine how you will respond at home. Thankfully home is not an operational theatre!	It is CRITICAL that combat veterans are deprogrammed from their implanted extreme violence – otherwise how do their minds differentiate between home and conflict situations when under pressure!

*BATTLEMIND SKILL: BUDDY BUDDY SYSTEM
POSSIBLE HOME FRONT PROBLEM:
WITHDRAWAL	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
On Deployment: Having faced the challenges of deployment together, many Service personnel may think that no one can understand their operational experience like their operational colleagues.	On Deployment: Combat veterans know that no-one can understand their operational experiences like their operational colleagues, because no-one back home has experienced the same horrors of conflicts as they themselves.
At Home: As a result of the bonds built with colleagues through these shared experiences, you may find that at home you prefer to be with your military mates rather than your partner, family or friends.    You may assume that only those who were ‘there with you in theatre’ can understand or be interested in you. Therefore, you may avoid speaking openly with friends and family.	At Home: You will naturally prefer to be with your military mates rather than your partner, family or friends because you and your mates are now like ‘peas in a pod of shared dependence and trust each other.’   Strange but true, conflicts create stronger bonds amongst combat veterans  –  what is stronger than placing your life in your comrades’ hands. Whereas family and friends are subsequently protected from the horrors you experienced, and this is why you avoid speaking openly with them.
Adapting the Deployment Skill: Being on deployment results in bonds with mates that will last a lifetime; back home, however, your friends and family may have changed and re-establishing these bonds will take time and work.	Adapting the Deployment Skill: Fact: It is not your family or friends who have changed whilst you served in conflicts – so much as yourself! Acquiring deployment skills and the intensified training in violence changes your whole thinking about how to deal with the violence of conflicts.
Action: It is important that you take the time and effort to reconnect and renew relationships at home. This can be done by spending individual time with each of your loved ones, as well as balancing the time spent with colleagues and family. It is vital that you provide and accept support when re-establishing relations at home.	Action:  Firstly, the MoD must define who or is likely to be suffering combat related PTSD after their service in conflicts by issuing veterans and their families a copy of The Veterans Survival Guide by Jimmy Johnson.   Secondly, each and every combat solider must be properly de-programmed from the extreme violence implanted in their subconscious minds prior to their services in conflicts. Veterans’ In Prison is not aware of a single programme to help combat veterans cope with their implanted extreme violence and re-establish their relationships at home!

*BATTLEMIND SKILL: ACCOUNTABILITY
POSSIBLE HOME FRONT PROBLEM:
CONTROLLING AT HOME	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
On Deployment: Maintaining control of weapons and equipment in theatre is necessary for survival. ALL personal items are important to you and knowing where they are kept is vital.	On Deployment: Maintaining control of weapons to necessitate the use of extreme violence is essential for survival in conflicts, and knowing where they are kept is vital.
At Home: You may become angry at home when someone moves or messes with your stuff, even if they are trying to help.   You may also think that nobody cares about doing things properly except for yourself.	At Home: You will become angry at home when someone moves or messes with your stuff as this may be deemed a threat, instantly creating ‘rage and anger’ which can result in violence. Therefore, unless you are properly de-programmed from this implanted extreme violence the threat will remain firmly embedded in your subconscious mind.
Adapting the Deployment Skill: Remember that back home, the small details are no longer important; therefore, decisions and personal space are best shared.	Adapting the Deployment Skill: Basically, your deployment skill is established on extreme violence and small details are extremely important in life and death situations. Thus, the infringement of your personal space will always seem intrusive – until you are de-programmed.
Action: It is important to remember that giving up control at home does not place you at risk. You must decide what is and is not important. Try not to get bothered about unimportant things and don’t be afraid to apologise if you overreact. Apologising is not a sign of weakness.	Action: The controlling of personnel should always stay within the military and not be necessary at home, though the giving up of control may make you feel at risk. Also, you must be de-programmed for you to be able to decide what is now important or unimportant, so as not to overreact by using extreme violence!

*BATTLEMIND SKILL: TARGETED AGGRESSION
POSSIBLE HOME FRONT PROBLEM:
GENERAL AGGRESSION	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
On Deployment: Split-second decisions that are lethal in highly uncertain environment are necessary for survival.       Aggression keeps you alert, awake and alive.	On Deployment: Split-second decisions are a ‘drilled kill, kill, kill strategy’ created by intense rage and anger instilled in combat troops minds prior to their deployment in conflicts and a necessity for their survival.   Aggression ensures they are the best killing machine against the enemy.
At Home: When you return home, you may find that you feel annoyed with other people and may display inappropriate anger, or snap at colleagues.   You may find that particular issues or situations can quickly upset you; this may lead you to overreact to minor insults, jokes or comments.	At Home: The key words here are ‘you may’. In truth the words should read; ‘you will!’, as combat veterans’ minds are still conditioned in extreme violence and can and will in some cases respond with intense rage and anger – most have no other option because it will not dissipate with time.
Adapting the Deployment Skill: “Operation aggression” involves appropriate responses to real threats in order to remain safe. However, most situations at home don’t require split-second responses.	Adapting the Deployment Skill: “Operation aggression” is the nearest the MoD will come to admitting that they brainwash combat troops minds in extreme violence. So, unless correctly de-programmed, the violent split-second responses will remain unchanged whether at home or still serving in a conflict.
Action: If you find yourself becoming angry you should assess whether there is a real threat to your safety. Think before you act and wait before responding (it may help to count to 5); learn to walk away. It may also help to talk to a mate to get a reality check to find out if being angry is the right response. Although this can be initially difficult, the more you do this the easier it becomes.	Action: This is a classic example of the MoD turning their backs on their responsibility for implanting this extreme violence in combat veterans’ minds. Since their de-programming advice of learning to walk away or counting to 5 will not be of any help in dealing with the basics of this implanted violence. In reality, the MoD are leaving the Criminal Justice System (CJS) to clear up and dispose of combat veterans under the guise of criminality.

*BATTLEMIND SKILL: TACTICAL AWARENESS
POSSIBLE HOME FRONT PROBLEM:
BEING ON EDGE	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
On Deployment: Survival depended on being aware of your surroundings all the time and immediately reacting to threats such as snipers or indirect fire.	On Deployment: Survival depends on you being constantly alert and knowing your immediate action drill to threats of violence, snipers or IED’s (Improvised Explosive Devices).
At Home: Back home you may feel keyed up or anxious in large groups or situations where you feel confined. You may find that you are easily startled especially when you hear loud noises.         Many returning service personnel also report difficulty sleeping when they first come home.	At Home: Back home many families expressed deep concerns in the change in behaviour of their loved ones on their return home from conflicts, even though you yourself may feel you have not changed. Yet you have terrible mood swings with fits of rage and anger and can resort to violence easily like a ticking time bomb.   You display new sleeping habits with troubled sleep patterns due to nightmares.
Adapting the Deployment Skill: Being operationally effective required being alert and paying attention; you were trained to react quickly to danger signals. Back home, however, these ‘instant’ reactions may still occur at first and you will need to take time to learn to relax. Remember that these reactions are entirely normal and should disappear gradually over time.	Adapting the Deployment Skill: Serving in conflicts makes you fully alert and ready to react quickly to meet violence with extreme violence. These instant reactions will not simply disappear with time because this extreme violence has been implanted in your subconscious and is constantly cocked and waiting for threats of danger. Tragically lots of combat veterans of conflicts have unknowingly been triggered into using violence many years after their service and then end up inside the Criminal Justice System serving prison sentences for extreme violence.
Action: Monitor yourself for over-reactions to minor events. Don’t be embarrassed if you find yourself overreacting but be prepared to explain to your loved ones what is happening.         You may find it helpful to take regular exercise to help you relax. If you find that you are using alcohol or drugs to help you sleep, then that’s the sign that you need to seek some help.	Action: You will probably react to minor events such as sudden sounds or noises – you may dive for cover or even freeze. Nevertheless, these reactions can also pull you down into bouts of depression and suicidal tendencies or wanting to be dead (explained in the VIP’s Stay Alive pamphlet by Jimmy Johnson).   You may start abusing substances as a crutch to avoid or numb these overwhelming thoughts and feelings and consequently you will need the professional help in the field of alcohol or drugs.

*BATTLEMIND SKILL: LIMITED ALCOHOL
POSSIBLE HOME FRONT PROBLEM:
LAGERED UP	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
On Deployment: In theatre alcohol was limited. This was important to keep your mind clear so that you were able to operate effectively.	On Deployment: The policing of alcohol was quite severe during your deployment in conflicts, it had to be for obvious reasons. But if you could get your hands on it, you would use it.
At Home: Alcohol is now plentiful, and you will probably have a reduced tolerance after being ‘dry’ throughout your deployment. Drinking in moderation is okay, but excessive alcohol causes problems.	At Home: In fact, prior to your return to the UK you went through the MoD’s widely acclaimed ‘decompression programme’ based in Cyprus, supposedly in place to help you fit back into society after your service in Iraq or Afghanistan. This included being let loose in a compound full of free booze to help you and your mates get blottoed out of your heads.
Adapting the Deployment Skill: On deployment it was essential to keep a clear head at all times. At home, you need to keep a clear head too. Drinking too much leads to bad decisions.	Adapting the Deployment Skill: Unfortunately, at home alcohol becomes a remedy for the horrors and violence you experienced in conflicts and puts you at great risk of your implanted violence overriding any logical decisions.
Action: Pace yourself and don’t encourage each other to get drunk. Most importantly, look out for each other when you return home as you did in theatre. Encourage any mate who is drinking heavily to get help before the problem gets worse.  Remember also that your tolerance for alcohol may well be much less than it was before you went away.	Action: The logistics of helping mates not drink too heavily will not work, as combat veterans returning from conflicts revert to the adage: ‘All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy’, which they express with great gusto! This soon gets their tolerance for alcohol back to where it was or maybe higher than before they went away.

*BATTLEMIND SKILL: EMOTIONAL CONTROL
POSSIBLE HOME FRONT PROBLEM:
DETACHMENT AND NUMBNESS	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
On Deployment: Controlling your emotions in the theatre is critical for success and quickly becomes second nature.	On Deployment: Your extreme violence training automatically kicks in during conflict situations, which inhabits or removes any empathy or emotional response – this becomes second nature.
At Home: Failing to display emotions or only showing anger around family and friends when you return will hurt your relationships. Continuing to keep a tight hold of your emotions may result in your loved ones seeing you as detached and uncaring.	At Home: The reason for failing to show emotions amongst family or friends is because of your ‘upped’ training in violence, as this is still embedded in your subconscious. And this is an important reason why you should be de-programmed from this extreme violence as soon as you return to the UK.
Adapting the Deployment Skill: Emotional control involves both holding in and expressing feelings.	Adapting the Deployment Skill: Combat veterans have their own ‘in and out’ technique of holding in and showing the least of emotional reactions through their fear of losing control of their own emotions.
Action: Although you might find it difficult to talk to friends and family about your experiences or you may be worried about how they will react, unless you tell them they can’t support you.   So, tell your story and express your emotions appropriately with people you feel comfortable with; showing emotion is important for keeping your personal relationships healthy. Opening up to friends and family about your experiences doesn’t mean you are weak. You would help your family or mate, so let them help you.	Action: Regrettably you cannot talk to friends and family about your experiences because you are unwittingly trying to protect them from the horrors you have experienced.     The safest way of opening up and expressing your true feelings and emotions of your service in conflicts, is through professional or combat veterans therapy groups. Opening up to friends and family without qualified help can create serious and frightening experiences even for you – as the mind is a very complex piece of equipment.

*BATTLEMIND SKILL: MISSION OPSEC
POSSIBLE HOME FRONT PROBLEM:
SECRETIVENESS	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
On Deployment: You talk about the mission only with those who need to know; you can only talk about deployment experiences and missions with unit members or those who have “been there…”	On Deployment: It is natural to talk about missions with only those who need to know, besides it is also illegal under the Official Secrets Act to talk about missions with non-military personnel, as it could also be very embarrassing for Governments.
At Home: You may avoid sharing any of your deployment experiences with your family, partner and friends. You may also avoid telling them where you are going and when you will need to be back, and even get suspicious when they ask.	At Home: You avoid sharing the gory and horrific experiences of conflicts because you want to protect your family, partner and friends from these horrors. But you cannot avoid telling them where you are going especially when the whole country knows at the outbreak of any hostilities, plus it is normal for loved ones to ask when you will be back.
Adapting the Deployment Skill: OPSEC involves providing information to those who need to know and trusting your colleagues. On returning home, the “need to know” now includes friends and family.	Adapting the Deployment Skill: Does whoever compiled this piece of writing know or even understand what combat veterans have lived through, and the impossibility on returning home of explaining the appalling revulsion of conflicts to family or friends who might “need to know”?
Action: It is important to realise that your family and friends need to know something about your deployment experiences; it helps them better understand the pressures that you have been under, and (for some) may explain why you may seem “different”  since your return. It is understandable that you may not feel able to share everything the first time round. Tell your story the way you want to tell it and share with your partner what you are doing, day-to-day.	Action: It is important to be properly deprogrammed from the extreme violence before coming home and engaging with family or friends. The implanted rage, anger and violence explains why domestic and other criminal acts of violence have greatly increased when combat veterans return home, plus it is also how family and friends recognise you are different. Tragically you will not be able to share your violent history with anyone because you yourself will not be able to explain why you are ready to explode with the use of extreme violence even when involved in minor arguments.
*BATTLEMIND SKILL: INDIVIDUAL RESPONSIBILITY
POSSIBLE HOME FRONT PROBLEM:
GUILT	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
On Deployment: Your responsibility in theatre is to be effective, to survive and do your best to keep your colleagues alive.	On Deployment: Your responsibility in conflicts is to do your job in exactly the way you were trained, in killing of other human beings with the use of extreme violence without any thought or hesitation.
At Home: You may feel you have failed your mates/colleagues if they were killed or seriously injured, and may believe that you could have changed what happened. You may also be bothered by memories of those killed or wounded.	At Home: You may feel you failed your mates /colleagues if they were killed or seriously injured. Unfortunately, this is another of the symptoms of combat related PTSD which you may or may not be suffering. Therefore, you will need the help of Mental Health Professionals.
Adapting the Deployment Skill: Remember in the “heat of battle” personnel must act – they make life or death decisions. There is a great deal of luck in surviving combat, as you all know. Responsibility involves learning from these decisions… without second guessing.	Adapting the Deployment Skill: When in the “heat of battle” or when the “shit is flying” you make life and death decisions and the ending; “what will be will be”. Surviving these clashes makes you more unsympathetic, callous and constantly on edge as these people have been trying to kill you – so you learn to be ready for the next attack.
Action: It is important to recognise and accept that there are human limits to preventing death and injuries. There is nothing to be ashamed of or guilty about if you survive – do not allow “survival guilt” to destroy you. Your mate would want you to carry on without shame.         Remember those who were killed or seriously injured but live your life as fully as they would have wanted you to.	Action: There is nothing to feel ashamed or guilty about if you survive and your mates did not, so don’t allow “survival guilt” to destroy you as it will also destroy your family. We know “life is unfair” and many combat veterans will be charged with crimes of violence on their return to society, ending up in the Criminal Justice System because they were never deprogrammed from this implanted extreme violence.   Remember your mates who were killed, they would have never wished this problem of retained extreme violence on their enemies –  never mind on yourself.

*BATTLEMIND SKILL: INDIVIDUAL RESPONSIBILITY
POSSIBLE HOME FRONT PROBLEM:
GUILT	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
On Deployment: Your responsibility in theatre is to be effective, to survive and do your best to keep your colleagues alive.	On Deployment: Your responsibility in conflicts is to do your job in exactly the way you were trained, in killing of other human beings with the use of extreme violence without any thought or hesitation.
At Home: You may feel you have failed your mates/colleagues if they were killed or seriously injured, and may believe that you could have changed what happened. You may also be bothered by memories of those killed or wounded.	At Home: You may feel you failed your mates /colleagues if they were killed or seriously injured. Unfortunately, this is another of the symptoms of combat related PTSD which you may or may not be suffering. Therefore, you will need the help of Mental Health Professionals.
Adapting the Deployment Skill: Remember in the “heat of battle” personnel must act – they make life or death decisions. There is a great deal of luck in surviving combat, as you all know. Responsibility involves learning from these decisions… without second guessing.	Adapting the Deployment Skill: When in the “heat of battle” or when the “shit is flying” you make life and death decisions and the ending; “what will be will be”. Surviving these clashes makes you more unsympathetic, callous and constantly on edge as these people have been trying to kill you – so you learn to be ready for the next attack.
Action: It is important to recognise and accept that there are human limits to preventing death and injuries. There is nothing to be ashamed of or guilty about if you survive – do not allow “survival guilt” to destroy you. Your mate would want you to carry on without shame. Remember those who were killed or seriously injured but live your life as fully as they would have wanted you to.	Action: There is nothing to feel ashamed or guilty about if you survive and your mates did not, so don’t allow “survival guilt” to destroy you as it will also destroy your family. We know “life is unfair” and many combat veterans will be charged with crimes of violence on their return to society, ending up in the Criminal Justice System because they were never deprogrammed from this implanted extreme violence. Remember your mates who were killed, they would have never wished this problem of retained extreme violence on their enemies –  never mind on yourself.

*BATTLEMIND SKILL: NON-DEFENSIVE (COMBAT) DRIVING
POSSIBLE HOME FRONT PROBLEM:
UNNECESSARY RISK-TAKING	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
On Deployment In theatre you drove in a very demanding, hostile environment taking risks when the operational situation demanded it. You became accustomed to driving highly powered, armoured vehicles.	On Deployment: You were constantly vigilant for explosive devices left by the roadside when driving in conflicts. You were trained in ‘immediate action drills and aggressive driving techniques’ such as slamming on the brakes or swerving your vehicle away from danger in an instantaneous reaction.
At Home: When personnel return from operational duties they often find that their attitudes towards driving and risk taking have changed. They may continue to drive as if they were back in theatre and not pay attention to the dangers of driving in the local environment. Research has shown that the chance of having a road traffic accident is higher in the immediate period after returning from operations.	At Home: When driving on return from operational duties your subconscious is still very much ‘switched-on’ and continually searching for these roadside hazards. As a result, the chances of having a road traffic accident are very much higher after returning because of this self-awareness brought on by your subconscious reacting with immediate action drills out of your control!
Adapting the Deployment Skill: Special driving techniques are necessary to avoid dangers in theatre; at home, some of these techniques may ‘feel right’, but can be dangerous.	Adapting Deployment Skill: Special driving techniques are vital to avoid lethal ominous threats in conflict situations; but at home, military combat drivers have to be alerted to how their aggressive driving techniques automatically kick in as they will still unconsciously recognise these perceived dangers left by the roadside.
Action: Switch from an offensive to defensive driving style and obey traffic laws. Take it easy… slow down. Don’t become a road traffic accident statistic.	Action: Combat drivers have to fully understand that these subconscious threats are ‘not real’ when driving back home, otherwise they will unwittingly become engaged with them and be very much at risk of causing a road traffic accident even when obeying traffic laws.
*BATTLEMIND SKILL: DISCIPLINE & ORDERING
POSSIBLE HOME FRONT PROBLEM:
CONFLICT	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
On Deployment In theatre you survival depended on discipline and obeying orders. Following orders kept you, and those around you, safe.	On Deployment: In conflicts, discipline is much stricter than in peacetime soldiering as orders are carried out instantly without any thought or hesitation – and also prevent you thinking of the harm you are inflicting on another human being (the enemy).
At Home: If you display the same level of control over your actions and the actions of those around you, such as ordering and demanding that others do what you say, this is likely to lead to conflict with your partner; children and friends at home.	At Home: You may feel changed by the regulations during the conflict and attempt to carry out the same actions of control with your partner, children and friends – be warned the levels of discipline at home do not warrant the actions required.
Adapting the Deployment Skill: Giving and following orders involves a clear chain of command, which does not exist within families and friendships.	Adapting Deployment Skill: You may be triggered into shouting orders at anyone you think is rude or unruly, especially children, so stop and think! They are civilians not military personnel and not there to be ordered about, so leave the orders with the military.
Actions: Remember that your friends and family have been getting on with their lives while you have been gone and may have developed new ways of doing things. It is therefore important to always be prepared to negotiate. Family and friends are not military units. Do not treat them like one.	Actions: Your family and friends have carried on with their ‘normal’ lives whilst you have been gone. Tragically, it is you who have changed and developed new skills in the use of extreme violence – not negotiations. You need to be deprogrammed from the extreme violence implanted in your mind prior to your service in the conflict, and so prevent you bringing home this violence.

*BATTLEMIND SKILL: DISCIPLINE & ORDERING
POSSIBLE HOME FRONT PROBLEM:
CONFLICT	VETERANS’ IN PRISON (VIP) RESPONSE
On Deployment In theatre you survival depended on discipline and obeying orders. Following orders kept you, and those around you, safe.	On Deployment: In conflicts, discipline is much stricter than in peacetime soldiering as orders are carried out instantly without any thought or hesitation – and also prevent you thinking of the harm you are inflicting on another human being (the enemy).
At Home: If you display the same level of control over your actions and the actions of those around you, such as ordering and demanding that others do what you say, this is likely to lead to conflict with your partner; children and friends at home.	At Home: You may feel changed by the regulations during the conflict and attempt to carry out the same actions of control with your partner, children and friends – be warned the levels of discipline at home do not warrant the actions required.
Adapting the Deployment Skill: Giving and following orders involves a clear chain of command, which does not exist within families and friendships.	Adapting Deployment Skill: You may be triggered into shouting orders at anyone you think is rude or unruly, especially children, so stop and think! They are civilians not military personnel and not there to be ordered about, so leave the orders with the military.
Actions: Remember that your friends and family have been getting on with their lives while you have been gone and may have developed new ways of doing things. It is therefore important to always be prepared to negotiate. Family and friends are not military units. Do not treat them like one.	Actions: Your family and friends have carried on with their ‘normal’ lives whilst you have been gone. Tragically, it is you who have changed and developed new skills in the use of extreme violence – not negotiations. You need to be deprogrammed from the extreme violence implanted in your mind prior to your service in the conflict, and so prevent you bringing home this violence.

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